“You can’t rush your healing
Darkness has its teachings Love? is never leaving You can’t rush your healing Your healing…”
I just heard those words in a song in yoga this morning and it is so true!
For the longest time, I used to think to myself, “Enough already! I want to be DONE with this! I want it to be HEALED!”
In fact, I hear this a lot with many clients too. One man recently said, “I wish I could have shock therapy to erase all of the limiting beliefs about my worthiness, shame and guilt and just be happy already!”
Wouldn’t we all?
But the truth is, he admitted that he doesn’t feel.
He feels these untrue feelings about himself but he doesn’t let the feelings, the memories, the pain out and process his emotions.
There is a lot to be said about the power of positive thinking. However, you are not going to be able to replace the negative feelings with the positive until you release and tap into the uncomfortable.
Sorry… but it ain’t happening!
So many of us avoid the discomfort of our feelings by numbing and self-medicating. It can be done with food, alcohol, drugs, shopping, internet surfing, etc.
Even something seemingly ‘good’ can be used for avoidance, such as the need to exercise. While exercise is a wonderful way to work through emotions and boost the endorphins in the body, I recently had a client admit that she is so extreme in her exercising in order to avoid her painful feelings and escape her uncomfortable home life.
These distractions help us avoid the pain.
So while we all want to get ‘there…’ and ‘there’ can mean different things to every person, we can’t rush it. And when we avoid it, we certainly can’t get ‘there’ either.
It is in the darkness that we see the light.
It is in the darkness that causes us to muster up our greatest courage to face what we need to learn.
And love- it is never leaving because it is inherent in WHO YOU ARE as a soul.
In yoga, we learn to get comfortable in the uncomfortable. That is the nature of the practice on the mat and it is the nature of the practice of life.
Life is getting comfortable in the uncomfortable because we all know, life can get REALLY, REALLY uncomfortable.
So let it come up. And out. And work through it.
And do you know how you get through it? By being in the present moment and anchoring it to your breath.
The Heart chakra’s element is air. The center of all life and love is breath. One moment and one breath at a time. When you breathe through the discomfort, you get anchored into the present moment and your body is able to relax. When you do that, you might not feel the need to self-medicate and/or avoid. And wouldn’t that be awesome?!
In this week’s Energy Healing Toolkit, I share with you a very simple energy healing practice- taking a deep breath. So many people I work with in my practice need this basic instruction so I thought I would share it with you too!
In private sessions, we delve deeper into your energy, goals and needs.
Thanks for taking this journey with me.
Energy Healing Toolkit
How to Take a Deep Breath
So many people I meet in my healing practice don’t know how to take a deep breath!
When you breathe in through your mouth and out through your mouth, you are creating a stress response in your body known as ‘flight or flight.’
Your body doesn’t know if you are running from a bear or is just anxious because of the stressful moment you are actually in or possibly creating with your negative and worried thoughts.
In order to move through this discomfort, the darkness and to anchor yourself in the present moment, you need to breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.
When you breathe in through your nose, you are sending a calming response to the body’s systems which helps you clear through the discomfort, blocks and dark moments.
1) Place one hand on your chest and the other on your abdomen.
2) Take a deep breath in through your nose to the count of five. Your hand on your abdomen should rise higher than your hand on your chest. This ensures that you are drawing air into the bottom part of your lungs.
3) Slowly exhale through your mouth to the count of five or more. Make sure you empty your lungs completely by gently contracting your stomach muscles.
4) Keep repeating this inhalation and exhalation at least five times.